similarities

Do you look for differences between yourself and those you meet? You would do better to look for similarities. You distinguish yourself from those you disagree with to defend the integrity of your own identity, yet your identity is not threatened by contact with those you disagree with. If you start with similarities you have a foundation from which to bridge differences, but if you start with disagreements you have only a chasm across which to attack. Agree with your adversary while you are in the way with him. You cannot compromise the truth, but don’t separate until you have exhausted every avenue of understanding and reconciliation by which you may win your brother.