Have you ever been defensive? This happens to everyone at times, but you should avoid it as much as possible. Being in a defensive state prevents you from learning and growing. You cannot defend and be open to growth and change at the same time. You need to accept vulnerability and risk if you are to move forward. Healing is something else that defensiveness interferes with, particularly of spiritual and emotional trauma. Have you observed that people are not healed spiritually until they reach a place of acceptance? Have you experienced it yourself? Let go, and open your hands, and receive.
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