I tell you to love your enemies and pray for  them. Does this imply that you need to keep a list of them so that you can pray for them consistently? Prayer lists can be effective reminders but this approach is prone to problems.  Can you keep track of your enemies with gracious intent to love  them rather than to review the reasons why there is an offense between you and why you are right? If you approach this task properly it will give you life. Your prayer of love and blessing for those who have hurt you is a blessing to you, for it releases you from the power of your past to hinder your present and future. 

What is your level of self-esteem? Do you think it is too low? You hear about this as a serious problem everywhere you go. Do you ever encounter someone who thinks their level of self-esteem is too high? Yet my word is full of admonitions to be humble and lowly in heart. Do you find anything in my word to tell you to think more highly of yourself than would otherwise? Yet the answer is not to heap condemnation on yourself. That is false humility because it is still an expression of self-consciousness, even if expressed negatively. Let go of your ego management project and look to me. 

Are you familiar with the idea of letting someone off the hook? If you have a case or a complaint against someone and decide not to pursue it this is a common expression used to describe your releasing them from judgment. Have you ever heard people complain about unfair treatment from me? Perhaps you have done this yourself. People assume that I am to blame for all the calamities and tribulations they encounter in life, and in many cases become bitter against me. These experiences may leave you with some difficult questions to struggle with about my sovereignty but the way you resolve them may lead you to false conclusions. You can start by letting me off the hook. 

What are you looking for when you gather with others in my name? Is it important to you that I show up too? If this is what your heart hungers for, then you will be disappointed if it doesn’t happen, no matter what else happens. If you are indifferent to my presence then other things take on more significance. I have promised to be with even 2 or 3 who are gathered in my name. Yet beyond this, you have my promises that if you seek you will find, and that if you hunger and thirst after righteousness you will be filled. Invite me to your meetings. If this is your only desire you can be sure that I seek such to worship me and I will come.